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Borderline Personality Disorder: Finding Empowerment for Change

by Bekke Abe   Have you ever experienced the internal feelings of “falling apart,” “shattered,” “beside yourself,” and/or “abandoned?” Have you experienced symptoms and behavior of inability to mask reactive mood, chronic feelings of emptiness, fear of abandonment, pattern of unstable interpersonal relationships, marked and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self, and impulsivity that are potentially self-damaging?   Dr. James A. Chu states that “this dissociative sense of fracturing results in psychic distress and a paralysis of functioning in which associative capacity – access to thoughts, feelings, normal abilities, and judgment –...

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Why Do Premarital Counseling?

by Bekke Abe

 

premarital counselingStatistics shows that divorce affects a variety of couples. It affects those who share the same religious beliefs, who are educated or not educated, the rich, the poor, the young, the old, those with children, and those living in the city or living out in the country. So, in the midst of the rising divorce rate, the question then arises: Why get married? Why is marriage important?

As couples get further into their relationship and their love starts to deepen, they start to think about whether or not to take the next step, which is marriage. Figuring out how to handle preparing for talking about marriage, children, finances, in-laws, and other personal problems, can trigger anxiety, worries, and doubts.

 

So, what do couples think about when it comes to taking the next step? 

  • How do I know if we are meant for each other?
  • Is my partner’s value and beliefs aligned with mine?
  • What is the big plan? Do we want children? Where do we want to live?
  • What is the expectation in regard to time spent with extended family?
  • What things do I not know about my partner?

 

So, what things should one start thinking about when it comes to taking that next step?

How to reduce stress at work: Tips from a Psychologist in Downtown Los Angeles

 

Reducing stress at work is both simpler and harder than it seems at first glance. As a psychologist who specializes in anxiety and works in Downtown Los Angeles, I want to give you a few tips to reduce your stress at work… and be more productive.

 

Meet Ian. Ian just accepted a new job at a law firm in Downtown Los Angeles. Ian’s excited, and willing to put in whatever work is required to prove his value as a lawyer. The first 2 weeks go well, and while he’s tired, he also gets a bit excited when he gets an email from a client on a weekend – he doesn’t mind replying, after all, it seems to be expected of people at his firm.

Tips for Using Your Insurance in Therapy

by Marijane DiCandia

 

tips for using your insurance in therapyJanuary is right around the corner and you may want to make some changes in your insurance plan to give you the flexibility to choose a therapist who you feel is your best fit.  Choosing the best therapist for your individual needs and with whom you feel an easy rapport from the get go can make a very big difference in how successful your therapeutic gains are.  Trusting your therapist is the door to how safe you feel to be yourself, show your issues and feel your deepest feelings.  Connection to your therapist is the gateway to creating deeper connections and closer relationships with the people in your life.

What to Talk About in Therapy: A Guide to Getting the Most Out of Your Sessions

 

what to talk about in therapyWhat are people supposed to talk about in therapy, anyway?  The past? The happenings of the week?  Their deepest, darkest fears?  What topics are considered “therapy-worthy”?

 

Many clients, especially at the beginning of therapy, feel uncertain about which details of their life are worth sharing.  Should I talk about my stress at work or about the dream I had last night?  How much should I talk about my feelings? How much background do I need to share for this story to make sense? Is my therapist expecting me to talk about something in particular?