Giving Your “Good Enough”

  By Emily Phifer   A few months back, I was contemplating the importance of giving of ourselves-- to the world, to our work, to those around us.    For me personally, when I go to offer anything of myself to the world, it’s very easy for me to get caught up by my own inadequacy, insecurity, and uncertainty.  The following questions readily bubble to the surface: “What if I don’t say just the right thing? What if someone has already shared an idea like mine before? What if what I have to give isn’t...

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Coping With Sudden Change: Listening to the Trees

  By Curtis Miller and Emily Phifer   In nature, we see reflected back to us a truth we also encounter in our core experience as humans: Life is unpredictable and difficult.    When the unexpected hits, every aspect of our being is challenged - mind, body and soul.  Like trees buffeted about by strong, gale force winds, we must adapt and move in response to what hits us - bending with the challenge, and not fighting against it. When we face unexpected hardship, we are forced to face the crisis at hand, even as we...

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Grounded In the Present: Now. Here. This.

  By Emily Phifer    In overwhelming circumstances, with no end in sight, we may find ourselves challenged by knowing how best to survive the day- to- day marathon of our lives.   Disruptions to our routines, plans, and usual rhythms can bring overwhelm and disorientation for even the most balanced of people.  Our overwhelm is a normal and valid response to the stressors, changes and uncertainty we are collectively experiencing. We are normal, we are overwhelmed, and we are struggling, together.   Father Greg Boyle, the Jesuit priest and founder/director of “Homeboy Industries” organization with...

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Codependency

How to Overcome Codependency by Listening to Your Anxiety

  By Athina Danilo   Is caring for others is a familiar role you may take in your relationship with a partner, friend, or family member? Are you a caretaker for someone who is struggling with addiction or mental illness? If so, do you find it hard to practice self-care? Does taking care of your needs feel like a selfish thing to do? If any of the above struggles resonate with your experience, then codependency could be dictating your life and making it difficult to begin caring for yourself.   What Is Codependency?   Codependency makes it feel...

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HOW TO COPE BETTER WITH STRESS (AND USE HEALTHY COPING STRATEGIES)

In this post, Heather Inouye will help you identify ineffective coping strategies and implement more effective alternatives to cope better with stress.   This article will help you: Identify your current approach to stress management (typical coping strategies) Acquire practical tools to cope better with your immediate stress symptoms Learn and practice effective coping strategies to manage your long-term stress   Heather Inouye is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (#110232) based in Sierra Madre, California. Heather is currently under the supervision of Annie Miller, LMFT (#52595). To learn more about Heather and...

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