COUPLES, PERFECTIONISM, ANXIETY, TRAUMA, & SPIRITUALITY
There is nothing lonelier than to be suffering and have no one you can talk to about it. My mission as a therapist is to be someone who will hear you; someone who will see you in the midst of your pain.
When something happens that rocks your world — some rude awakening, or the shattering of a dream you had for your life — you need a place where you’re allowed to be human. A place where you’re allowed to struggle, to question, to grieve, to not be rushed. When you are worn out from trying to keep it all together and putting on a brave face, I want to provide a place where it’s OK to not be OK. I want to honor the struggles you may face, even in the midst of a presumably happy time like the early years of marriage, or new parenthood, where it might not feel culturally acceptable to say that things are really hard. Whether you’re in a crisis, or are seeking out support before the situation turns into one, it’s never too early or too late to begin.
My approach to therapy is based on the belief that we are all profoundly shaped by relationships, and that they can be the source of our deepest pain and also our greatest healing. The more we can understand the relationships that have influenced (and continue to influence) us, the healthier we can become. I want to help you understand and strengthen the vital relationships in your life, both by looking at the ways that your past experiences have shaped you, and also by attending to what’s happening in the present and carving out new possibilities for the future.
I want for you to feel known, cared for, and respected during the course of our work together. No matter what you’ve been facing or for how long, I would consider it a genuine privilege to hear about where you’ve been and where you want to be, and to pursue the way forward with you.
Contact me today for a free phone consultation — I look forward to speaking with you, and helping you decide whether working together could be a good fit.
Rachel Engels is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (#116274). She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Calvin College and completed her Master’s degree in Counseling at Geneva College. She is certified in Restoration Therapy (Level 1), and in the PREPARE/ENRICH curriculum for working with married & pre-married couples. Her personal and professional experiences have sparked her interest in working with a variety of populations and issues, including college students and young adults, identity formation, people working in ministry, families coping with divorce, people living with chronic or terminal illness, adoptive families, pre-engaged couples, recovery and codependency, pregnancy and parenthood, faith integration, and those who are living far from “home” in one sense or another. Rachel is herself a wife and mother, and has been a resident of Southern California since 2013. She is passionate about what she calls “the ministry of being a real person,” and chose to become a therapist because there is nothing more exciting than seeing people grow and come alive.
Rachel Engels is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT #116274) under the supervision of Annie Miller, LMFT #52595.