5 Steps to Understanding Your Anger and Handling It Effectively

by Crystal Clements, Psychological Assistant, PhD

 

anger counselingAnger can be a normal and healthy emotion. So why is it often so problematic? Here are a few signs that your anger may be harmful rather than helpful:

 

  • I’m often told I have a “bad temper”
  • Others distance themselves from me when I’m angry
  • Expressing anger leads to fighting
  • I don’t feel understood when I’m angry

 

Let’s take some time to understand anger in a different way.

Borderline Personality Disorder: Finding Empowerment for Change

by Bekke Abe   Have you ever experienced the internal feelings of “falling apart,” “shattered,” “beside yourself,” and/or “abandoned?” Have you experienced symptoms and behavior of inability to mask reactive mood, chronic feelings of emptiness, fear of abandonment, pattern of unstable interpersonal relationships, marked and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self, and impulsivity that are potentially self-damaging?   Dr. James A. Chu states that “this dissociative sense of fracturing results in psychic distress and a paralysis of functioning in which associative capacity – access to thoughts, feelings, normal abilities, and judgment –...

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Why Do Premarital Counseling?

by Bekke Abe

 

premarital counselingStatistics shows that divorce affects a variety of couples. It affects those who share the same religious beliefs, who are educated or not educated, the rich, the poor, the young, the old, those with children, and those living in the city or living out in the country. So, in the midst of the rising divorce rate, the question then arises: Why get married? Why is marriage important?

As couples get further into their relationship and their love starts to deepen, they start to think about whether or not to take the next step, which is marriage. Figuring out how to handle preparing for talking about marriage, children, finances, in-laws, and other personal problems, can trigger anxiety, worries, and doubts.

 

So, what do couples think about when it comes to taking the next step? 

  • How do I know if we are meant for each other?
  • Is my partner’s value and beliefs aligned with mine?
  • What is the big plan? Do we want children? Where do we want to live?
  • What is the expectation in regard to time spent with extended family?
  • What things do I not know about my partner?

 

So, what things should one start thinking about when it comes to taking that next step?